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Remember in one of my older blog posts (sorry, too lazy to dig back the inbound link) I mentioned that Happiness is determined by a balanced level of health, wealth and relationships?

Well, I might have been mistaken.

You see, I was listening to Adam Khoo’s Patterns of Excellence audio in my car and he explained that “Happiness” is not determined by outside factors (health, wealth, relationships), rather, it is a state of mind.

His NLP formula: Events + Response = Outcome.

We can’t control outside events such as the weather, change in government policies etc, but we can always choose how we respond to these events. That is why rape victims, millionaires who went bankrupt and disabled people, historically have shown to be able to overcome all hardships and succeed in life.

So this got me thinking, was my long term goal in life “happiness“? Or was it just to succeed in all places in all aspects in life?

If happiness is what I am truly looking for, I guess I have been wrong all the while. Happiness lies within, and right now, I can already say that I am truly happy for all that i’m blessed with.

But on the other hand, as much as happiness is a controlled state, it certainly wouldn’t hurt to raise my level of happiness much more by building my wealth, health, relationships and helping others do the same now, would it?

What do you think?

It’s  been awhile since I made a personal blog post. You normally hear me talking about wealth, career, success, personal development. And I must admit, i’ve become deadly passionate about these stuff ever since my journey began a year ago in Muar (March, 2009).

Subconsciously, I realized that i’ve started taking positive steps for a better life. For example, I’m determined to step out from my “Analytical” mindset to become an action taker. Over analyzing has always been one of my biggest weakness. That’s why nowadays I always tell myself to take action and just do it.

Another big change occurring in me is that I now enjoy doing things I love the most, not just for the sake of achieving financial freedom or having a nice body. Life is about the journey, not the destination. So now i’m determined to enjoy life to the fullest and live my passions. Also, i’m going to stop focusing on the results, but rather on the work that has to be done.

We have a long journey ahead of us, and my hope is to those that feel lost, find your true passion and calling and live it! Don’t let anything stop you from living life to the full and giving your fullest gifts to the world. Lack of time and money is NEVER and excuse. We can always create time and money if we want to.

I’d like to end this blog post by quoting a piece by an old classmate of mine, Phaik Leng. This is the 2nd time I’m quoting her on my blog. Her blog posts are just so spiritual and profound and I do feel inspired after reading them.

I decided to leave work at 5 sharp the other day, put on my trainers and went for a jog. After running a couple of rounds, i explored this little quaint town a bit with my camera and car, and I saw this little lake just off the main road. As I pulled up by the sandy bay, I saw an old couple fishing at the lake, with birds flying above them, and a soft breeze blowing against them – they were both wearing a peaceful look on their faces – such a tranquil moment for them, I thought.

And today is exactly one solid month since i left home to this new place. Senior staffs have been very warm and nice, and I noticed that the people here are generally cordial. The best thing is that, patients here seem to be friendlier and happier-looking too, and this gives a sense of satisfaction at the end of any tiring day.

Indeed, to adjust to a new place quickly, I realise that it’s so much easier if we look at the positive side of things. For a big hospital in a relatively small town like this, I’m sure I’m here for a reason. And i’m starting to see the rationale of it.

I’ll go back to that lake one day again. Just to chill and to watch the sunset, maybe.

To my dear friends who feel lost at times, I hope you’re inspired by Phaik Leng’s words. I’m sure there’s a reason why everyone of us are on this earth, and its up to us to find out our true purpose and live it to the full.

So i’ve been wrong all the while.

I used to think that to achieve happiness in life, you must have a balance in Health, Wealth and Relationships.

Unfornately, I discovered that “balance” is just another excuse for mediocrity.

How am I suppose to excel in life if by thinking that if I focus too much on “Wealth”, for example, other compartments of my life will suffer? If this is the case, i’m also telling myself that I DON’T want to excel in my career because it would cause my health and relationships to detiorate. Thus, as much as I want to excel in my career, subconsciously I would be preventing myself from succeeding! No wonder my year hasn’t been productive

Luckily I finally realised that. It is not impossible to excel in certain parts of life without neglecting others.

Lets play… The Game Of Life!

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Life is like a game. The objective of life is to win it.
There are many levels in life. Each level has its own boss and difficulty level. These are obstacles in life. Our job is to defeat the boss.
Whenever we get stuck in a level, its time to sought help from others. This can be in the form of getting tips of friends who have already passed the level or working together to pass a particular level.

There are many levels. It could be Family Level 1, Friends Level 2, Love Level 3 or Business level 48. Each time we pass a level, we will move on to the next. Sometimes in order to pass a certain level, we need to pass levels from different categories first. Sometimes, we have to revisit earlier levels to re-learn things we forget.

Like all games, the purpose of games is entertainment or enjoyment. Thats why, we must always enjoy the game of life. Don’t get too frustrated over one level. Revisit older levels and remind yourself of your previous achievements. Even if you can’t pass level 10 of Career, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be proud that you are at much higher levels of other categories.

I play the Game Of Life to win.

So… do you wanna play?

I’m tired but there’s an important lesson that I think I should be posting up. I get excited about things easily, and when I get excited about something I tend to think its going to make me rich. Thats when I lose focus and forget the core fundamentals such as forecasting sales and other stuff like seeing whether the business would be successful in the long term. I should stop being compulsive and start being more realistic. Business isn’t a walk in the part and if i’m going to go into it i’m going to have to start educating and learning how to do things right.

Lucky my brother slapped some sense into me and I think after tonight I will be alot more critical towards ideas that come by.

Another important thing I learnt tonight whenever you come across an idea

- Set Goals , Strategize , and Pick My Battles.

-e.g if you want to make RM10K worth of passive income, plan exactly how you are going to make that happen. if its too difficult, pick another battle.

I’m devastated!

I just wasted an amazing opportunity for an internet marketing joint venture with a very good internet marketer. Reason? Procrastination. I have nobody to blame but myself. I could have gotten it done months ago but I procrastinated for some reason.

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End result? Not only did I potentially lose the chance to make some cash for myself, I also lost the trust of that person. Ironically, recently i’ve been reading two books that somehow really  relate to this scenario, namely The Speed Of Trust by Stephen M.R. Covey and Awakening The Giant by Anthony Robbins. Both are great reads btw. Nevertheless, i will take this as a hard lesson for myself and come back even stronger than ever. As to whether trust can be re-established, it will have to depend on my own effort and also by proving results. The most trustable people are people who can produce results.

As for Awakening The Giant, Tony Robbin explains that people take action based on their perceptions on whether the action will produce pain or pleasure. For example, I procrastinated because I perceived the pain of working two jobs (hospital work and internet marketing) in a day as more painful than losing out on the opportunity of the joint venture. Of course I didn’t expect it back then but now that it happened I can feel the pinch.

Have you ever procrastinated something that you know you should be doing? Firstly, ask yourself why are you procrastinating. Then reflect on the consequences on procrastination and see which would cause you more anguish.