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It’s  been awhile since I made a personal blog post. You normally hear me talking about wealth, career, success, personal development. And I must admit, i’ve become deadly passionate about these stuff ever since my journey began a year ago in Muar (March, 2009).

Subconsciously, I realized that i’ve started taking positive steps for a better life. For example, I’m determined to step out from my “Analytical” mindset to become an action taker. Over analyzing has always been one of my biggest weakness. That’s why nowadays I always tell myself to take action and just do it.

Another big change occurring in me is that I now enjoy doing things I love the most, not just for the sake of achieving financial freedom or having a nice body. Life is about the journey, not the destination. So now i’m determined to enjoy life to the fullest and live my passions. Also, i’m going to stop focusing on the results, but rather on the work that has to be done.

We have a long journey ahead of us, and my hope is to those that feel lost, find your true passion and calling and live it! Don’t let anything stop you from living life to the full and giving your fullest gifts to the world. Lack of time and money is NEVER and excuse. We can always create time and money if we want to.

I’d like to end this blog post by quoting a piece by an old classmate of mine, Phaik Leng. This is the 2nd time I’m quoting her on my blog. Her blog posts are just so spiritual and profound and I do feel inspired after reading them.

I decided to leave work at 5 sharp the other day, put on my trainers and went for a jog. After running a couple of rounds, i explored this little quaint town a bit with my camera and car, and I saw this little lake just off the main road. As I pulled up by the sandy bay, I saw an old couple fishing at the lake, with birds flying above them, and a soft breeze blowing against them – they were both wearing a peaceful look on their faces – such a tranquil moment for them, I thought.

And today is exactly one solid month since i left home to this new place. Senior staffs have been very warm and nice, and I noticed that the people here are generally cordial. The best thing is that, patients here seem to be friendlier and happier-looking too, and this gives a sense of satisfaction at the end of any tiring day.

Indeed, to adjust to a new place quickly, I realise that it’s so much easier if we look at the positive side of things. For a big hospital in a relatively small town like this, I’m sure I’m here for a reason. And i’m starting to see the rationale of it.

I’ll go back to that lake one day again. Just to chill and to watch the sunset, maybe.

To my dear friends who feel lost at times, I hope you’re inspired by Phaik Leng’s words. I’m sure there’s a reason why everyone of us are on this earth, and its up to us to find out our true purpose and live it to the full.

Isn’t it amazing that we, as distinct individuals have the ability to live our lives the way we want?

We all have 24 hours in a day, and with this time, we can choose to build six-pack abs, score As for all our exams, get the girl of your hearts desire.

We can choose to sleep less in a day to get more work done. We can take up part-time jobs to build some start-up capital to own our own businesses. We can read books to build our knowledge and make our lives better.

We are in charge of our own lives. We can live a simple life in the village or become a high-powered executive in the corporate world. We can choose to go to poor countries to be a volunteer worker. We can choose to be a doctor, astronaut, lawyer, pharmacist. Money is not an issue because if there is a will, there is a way. Don’t know enough? Buy books, read more. No money? Get a part time job and start a small business. Don’t know how to start a business? buy books, read more.

The sky’s the limit, and all the worlds a stage.

So i’ve been wrong all the while.

I used to think that to achieve happiness in life, you must have a balance in Health, Wealth and Relationships.

Unfornately, I discovered that “balance” is just another excuse for mediocrity.

How am I suppose to excel in life if by thinking that if I focus too much on “Wealth”, for example, other compartments of my life will suffer? If this is the case, i’m also telling myself that I DON’T want to excel in my career because it would cause my health and relationships to detiorate. Thus, as much as I want to excel in my career, subconsciously I would be preventing myself from succeeding! No wonder my year hasn’t been productive

Luckily I finally realised that. It is not impossible to excel in certain parts of life without neglecting others.

Lets play… The Game Of Life!

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Life is like a game. The objective of life is to win it.
There are many levels in life. Each level has its own boss and difficulty level. These are obstacles in life. Our job is to defeat the boss.
Whenever we get stuck in a level, its time to sought help from others. This can be in the form of getting tips of friends who have already passed the level or working together to pass a particular level.

There are many levels. It could be Family Level 1, Friends Level 2, Love Level 3 or Business level 48. Each time we pass a level, we will move on to the next. Sometimes in order to pass a certain level, we need to pass levels from different categories first. Sometimes, we have to revisit earlier levels to re-learn things we forget.

Like all games, the purpose of games is entertainment or enjoyment. Thats why, we must always enjoy the game of life. Don’t get too frustrated over one level. Revisit older levels and remind yourself of your previous achievements. Even if you can’t pass level 10 of Career, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be proud that you are at much higher levels of other categories.

I play the Game Of Life to win.

So… do you wanna play?

I was in the “make-money- online” mode on this gloomy Friday afternoon when I stumbled upon a blog of an old friend, Phaik Leng. (Sorry, till now I still can’t spell your name correctly). With today’s cyberspace filled with bimbo blogs, mimbo blogs, emo blogs and money making blogs, very rarely do we come across sincere, heartwarming, down to earth blogs where people communicate their thoughts transparently with such grace and granduer, fearless of intrusion by strangers or what other may think.

Funny story actually, I was never close to her in university days. We occasionally greet with “hi-byes” and small talk but she always had this sincere smile that doesn’t look forced. When I went to the Millionaire Mind Intensive Seminar by T. Harv Eker, I was suprised to see her there, especially when she related a sad story about money she had in front of a 3,000 strong crowd. We chatted for awhile and parted our own ways but that short reunion reminded me that we are not alone in life’s struggles.

Anyway, the reason i’m blogging about this is because I was touched by her post The Sun Is Smiling. Really learnt a valuable lesson from it. Why not you guys go on and have a read and leave a comment – tell me what you think. To PL – Keep up the brilliant posts! I will be reading from afar

Dear Brothers, Fathers, Sons, Men in our lives,

Due to popular demand, i’ve going to talk about some stuff that will teach you how to be a real man in life.
Some of you may disagree or find it offensive, but this post represents my views, my thoughts and perceptions which are true to my core.

So what makes a man, a Man? A man is someone who lives everyday to his true purpose in life.
Whether his purpose is to become a CEO of a multi-billionaire company or to command a herd of sheep,
as long as he aligns his daily life to his true purpose in life, he is a man.

A man is someone who recognizes fear but still faces it head on if he knows that it will bring it closer to his true purpose in life.
He is willing to take risks, step out of his comfort zone and travel into the unknown but also knows his limits and borders on this
limits in search of his true self.

A man is someone who sticks to his true self, his core, his principles in life, recognizing that his principles might change
under the due influence of others as long as this change, after thorough consideration and reflection, would help him be
a better man and at the same time not stray from his true values in life. A man who would not sway under persuasion just
to “please” others.

A man who will promise to himself that he will live everyday of his life to his full abilty and will not settle for anything less. Showering his family, friends and lover with his manly gifts. A man who is passionate in his everyday endeavours and is enthusiastic, motivated and confident in his every thought and action.

Dear men, I challenge each and everyone of you to exercise the ways of the superior man. If you have yet to discover, find your true purpose in life, align your life to your true purpose and live your every single day of your life, motivated, passionate and willing to do whatever it takes to live your life to your full ability and shower everyone with your manly gifts. If you feel sleepy or lethargic, your body needs rest.
Rest it, wake up and continue living to your full capacity. I challenge you to wake up everyday and tell yourself – I know what is my true
purpose in life and I know I am living my everyday working towards it, while achieving a balance in life and also living my life to my full ability.

On a side note, I realized being in Muar for too long has negative effects on my personal development. Its been awhile
since I hungout with people who help me realize who I truly am and people who can motivate me to live life
life to my fullest. I must admit I do lose track of my true purpose sometimes.
Lucky I realized that and I am  re-aligning my life to this purpose.

Been doing enforcement in JB. What’s “enforcement”? Well basically its like a Police Officer, Customs Officer and Office Boy all into one =)

But i’m not here to talk about work. (or rather work im not passionate about). I’m here to inspire you guys with something juicy I discovered on the newspaper while killing time in the office. Oops hope boss doesn’t see this =P

So I was reading this interview with a Forex expert coz I was interested in what its all about. But what really struck me wasn’t the forex stuff, it was some random words of wisdom provided by the Forex guru in response to one of the questions:

Q: Please share with us your four step plan for success

A:

1) Choose a truly meaningful goal (one that would blow you qaway if you achieve it) and not something you are not passionate about.

2) Define what needs to be done with surgical precision – Clarity is POWER – if we know everything that needs to be done, we are 1000x more closer to that being our reality.

3)Schedule it and lock the door behind you. Make is an unmovable appointment and do something that commits you 100% – make it more painful to back out.

4) Get around the pathwalkers. (in other words go spend time with like minded people) because their reality and beliefs are consistent with yours – and this will rub off you.

There you have it. 4 Simple sentences which are really sound advice in my opinion. Especially point 2. We all should write down exactly what we have to  do in order to achieve our goals. I have done that already and I will be applying it ASAP.

Ok, first of all I must admit that my last birthday post wasn’t a sincere enough post. I was tired and not in the mood to blog because I wanted to go out with my friends that night so now that i’m here in Muar i’m gonna make a better post. But I really got alot of serious things to talk about.

The first part is is about my career. Yesterday I managed to take a really big step in moving my life forward. I completed a 40 page business proposal for this application for a grant to do business. It took me many weeks to do it because I lacked the motivation and had to cope with tiredness from work but i’m glad its finally over. It’s like putting down a 500KG bag off from my back. Throughout the process I really did step out from my comfort zone. And even if I don’t get the grant I know that i’ve did things other people wouldn’t have done :-

• I invited many of my bosses out for tea and shared my vision and managed to connect with them at a deeper level. I even managed to motivate some of them who lost passion after working so many years in the government.
• I took initiative to learn the basics of the business world. Of course there’s only so much I can cover in such a short period off time – but I learnt alot about writing business plans. I thought it was gonna be a breeze at first but I was so shocked when I saw the 40 page business proposal. I only dreamt of completing it but I’m really proud of myself coz its done. Might not seem like a lot but for a pure science student like me I think its a big achievement. Anyway it has to start somewhere right?
• Got exposed to the offline business world -TOTALLY different from internet businesses. There’s really alot of people element involved and I had my first taste of politics or should I say under the table money.

Besides all of that this whole year i’ve really been doing alot of reading. Never loved reading when I was young… Same like I never loved playing musical instruments when I was young. But now i’m addicted to guitar and reading as well. Why read? We’ll think of reading as hacks to life. You get to learn how to lead your life in much more interesting ways – Ways that took people YEARS to develop and put into a book for RM50. By reading books that teach you how to live your life better, you’ve potentially saved yourself thousands of hours and possibly money. So if you ask me what books I like to read? Definitely self-help books, or technical books which are related to what I want to learn coz by learning the technical stuff you are essentially bringing yourself a step closer to your goals.

Talk about goals – This is something I have been telling everyone around me. You have to realize your greater purpose in life. Seriously. Before this when I was studying pharmacy, I didn’t know why I was doing it. All I knew is that my parents paid alot of money for me to get my degree so that i can have a comfortable life in the future. And for that I am very grateful and I can safely say that I didnt let them down. However, once I started work I realized that i was still heading nowhere. I was running around like a headless chicken. Everyday go to work in the pharmacy, get scolded by patients, doctors etc and become super tired in the end of the day. All for what? My basic pay at the end of the month. Not only that I had to work every 2 weekends. I thought to myself. What the heck is going on here? I’m not even happy with my life. Life is not worth lived being unhappy. So then onwards, inspired by my brothers and friends around me – I decided to do everything it takes to move myself forward in life. I found Internet marketing interesting -My eldest brother was doing it at that time. I used to think it sounded quite scammy but he’s really making good money through it. So I decided to give it a shot. I approached him early March and he was generous enough to impart his knowledge to me – things that took him YEARS to learn. He gave me a crash course that weekend and ever since every weekend I would go back to KL for more training and also to equip myself with whatever skills I felt was necessary to succeed in Internet Marketing.

Now I haven’t made any money or much progress in internet marketing. That’s because I found a more interesting venture sometime in the middle of this year. The MDEC preseed grant. After attending the Millionaire Mind Intensive and decided that I want to create financial freedom for myself, I decided to put Internet Marketing on hold and pursue this grant. And I believe it was worth every drop of sweat and every moment I could have spent sleeping in bed. Although to be honest, I must admit I could have done alot better. I’m abit disappointed in myself but I won’t let that discourage me. I’m gonna come back even stronger than ever then next time and who knows by a stroke of luck… I might just be selected for the next round of grant application =)

The road ahead is an exciting one… and I look forward to all it’s challenges. Next 2 weeks will be spent in JB doing enforcement pharmacy. But I will spend my afterwork ours chilling in hotel catching up on some reading, Internet work, and also to meet up with old friends and relatives. It’s gonna be great.  =)

My official birthday post. This year has been a roller coaster ride for me compared to the last. It’s a whole different ball game we’re playing. What am I talking about? The transition from a student into a worker. A kid into an adult. A boy into a man. Within the short few months since I started work, I can say i’ve been through many ups and downs, all which has helped me grow into a better person in all aspects of life, as well as help me realize my true self even more.

Career

After coming back from UK, i bummed for a few months before starting work in mid November. Believe me, if I knew what i know now, I would have “bummed” for even longer. Peer pressure drew me into applying for my job, as the thought of finally getting to deal with patients after a gruelling 4 years of study was very enticing, not to mention the ‘cool factor’ of being a healthcare professional. So I came into work and realized everything I learnt was practically useless in the pharmacy. No hands on experience. But of course i’m exaggerating abit. Deep down inside we are applying our clinical knowledge to our practice day by day.

In March 2009, I decided that I wanted to quit my job as a pharmacist. Once again, I was influenced by all the people around me doing great things at their age – Khailee, Khaisiung, Edmund to name a few. I felt that my talent and skills can be better utilized not inside a hospital. Furthermore, i’m privelledged to be surrounded by these intelligent individuals. I have all the resources, mentorship and drive to do something more. That drove me to do Internet Marketing as shown by my Home Biz Blog. Thank goodness I have been quite savvy with technology since I was a little kid. I picked up things that took my eldest brother 3 years to learn thanks to his guidance. Ever since, I have been devouring books -online and offline, educating myself in order to acquire the skills to quit my job. Life has been super exciting for me especially after work, where I get to focus on my Internet Business.

Recently, my attention has been slightly drawn away to more interesting prospects. The prospect of starting my own company with a grant of 150k. This has been my biggest challenge yet – Working nights away to acquiring the grant, sacrificing my sleep, healthy lifestyle etc. But in order to succeed you have to pay a price. And i’m willing to go all the way to achieve my dreams.

Health
Ever since coming to Muar, my healthy lifestyle which I adopted has massively detiorated. due to factors such as the trouble of cooking, shopping for healthy food etc and lack of time, not to mention the tiredness and how easy it is to get a quick meal in Muar at a cheap price.  I still try and cover back by implementing insane 20 minute workouts which have been proven for fat burning. But i no longer hit the gym, go for jogs/runs or boil my food. This is the sacrifice I made for my career. At least for now until I get back to KL. When I get back KL, i’m going to buy lots of workout equipment and practice different workout routines I love to experiment.

Relationships

I’ve established a greater bond with my family members. Especially my brothers, after going for the 3-day Millionaire Mind Intensive. I think we all have something in common now haha. My parents have been very supportive of my plans and I am very grateful for it. My friends are going through the same journey as I am. We are all re-discovering ourselves, constantly growing, taking risks, stepping out of our comfort zones As for romance – I believe that I have alot more to learn throughout the way to becoming a better person and a better lover. Co-workers, i am glad that in general, the people here in Muar are very nice and although they might not share the same ideals as me, I can always count on their endless support and cheerful smiles to brighten up my day and also to make life much easier in the hospital. Sure there’sa fair share of ups and downs, but we learn and grow from it

Self-Actualization

I still have a long way to go. Lots to learn, lots of mistakes to make, lots of tears of sorrow and joy to share. Lots to grow. But in any case, I will face whatever challenges life brings me and I will grow stronger to overcome these problems with ease.

So that’s a quick overview about my year. Perfect for those who wish to catchup with me.